Solitary, Silent Christianity – It’s a Thing

Do you know someone who says, “my Sunday worship service is time on the lake,” or “I spend time with God hiking the Smokies”? Maybe you feel this way yourself?

With church attendance continuing to drop and as more and more Americans classify themselves as “none” or “done” with religion, it’s time to acknowledge that there’s more than one way to practice Christianity than to go to church on Sunday morning.

Those who practice their faith in the privacy of their own homes, out in the garden, up in the mountains, or sitting in a boat in the middle of a quiet lake are just as Christian as those who show up to sit in a pew every Sunday morning. In fact, during the early years of Christianity, those who took their faith the most seriously fled the noise and drama of communities and went out into the most remote places they could find to be alone and silent with God.

We’re told time and time again that Christianity “must” be practiced within a community. But running counter to the story of Christianity in community is the story of a quieter, more meditative Christianity practiced far from the maddening crowds, far from any institutional requirements or expectations, far from any sort of so-called human authority or hierarchy.  This was the story of those who sought God in the lonely solitude of the deserts, the forests, the caves, and in far-flung, off-the-beaten-path places.  This quieter story was lived out by holy men and women we now call “saints,” by monks and nuns, and later by simple pioneers and settlers who without fuss incorporated faith into their daily agricultural chores. Early Christian saints sought out the wild, the untamed, and the deserted as they sought God and deepened their own spiritual lives.

The “Desert Fathers and Mothers” – men and women who moved out to far flung places in the deserts of the Middle East – sought a heightened spirituality, a life lived close to God.  They craved the quiet, the solitude, and the serenity of life in the wilderness, away from the daily dramas of community life.  Perhaps they craved, too, a little danger as well.  The thrill and confidence of surviving an unforgiving environment, wild animals, and a focus on the bare necessities of life likely gave them perspective, heightened awareness of their surroundings, clearer thinking, and time to wrestle down any emotional demons they had carried with them into the desert.

Like any wilderness experience in both ancient and contemporary times, the challenge of surviving in the desert toughened up these men and women, burning away all selfishness, hedonistic desires, greed for material goods, and anger.  One “desert father,” Joseph of Panephysis, was said to have advised a young disciple that the point of this tough-love spirituality was to become “all flame.”  Perhaps that’s what modern people who are “done” with church seek as well – a purer, more authentic spiritual experience than sitting on a pew in a stuffy building.

So the next time you look askance at someone foregoing a church service to spend the day in the garden, on the lake, or off in the mountains, it’s okay. So did a lot of Christians we now call Saints.

Several paragraphs of this blog post are excerpted from Considering Birds & Lilies: Finding Peace & Harmony With the Everyday World Around Us by Cynthia Coe, available in e-book and paperback editions on

4 thoughts on “Solitary, Silent Christianity – It’s a Thing

  1. Thank you. I’m glad you liked it. I still like to find holiness, power and yet simplicity in the simple beauty of a raindrop on a leaf amidst all the the turmoil of a world preoccupied with image, importance and “presence”.

    God bless you loads. Senan

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  2. The Desert Fathers and Mothers were available to people who sojourned to meet them and ask them for prayer and wisdom. They still poured into others. These Solitary Christians today may do the same and indeed they should. Note also that the Desert Christians left materialism and the Greek government’s influence in the church to lead a drastically different life. Some (not all) of the people I know who worship God in nature left because they find immature Christians a hassle and meanwhile watch whatever on TV and lead as materialistic a life as the culturally influenced church. That is not the same thing as what the Dessert Fathers and Mothers did. Leave if you are called, fine. But do not leave if you are just feeling that you are somehow “above” being in community- there is a difference. Consider James 5:14-16 and Hebrews 10:23-25 as you reflect. Determine how these verses will have the most powerful meaning in your isolation. Your isolation may be for a time, or forever. But if it is forever, and a legitimate calling from God, my guess is your life may end up looking different in lots of ways than others in both the Burch and in the world besides merely spending worship time in the woods and away from the Body.


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